About Judy

I grew up in a large family with seven siblings. I have a Bachelor Degree in Computer Science from Brandon University in Canada and a Master Degree in Counselling from Edith Cowan University. I was an IT consultant and a project manager in Government services for 20 years before becoming a professional counsellor since 2007 specialising in affair and relationship counselling.

I have deep interests in studying personality growth and development, learning family dynamics and relationship challenges. I am a certified Enneagram teacher in Narrative Tradition, certified ACTA trainer, certified NLP Master Practitioner, certified PREPARE/ENRICH Counsellor, certified LINKS & PICK Instructor, and certified “Journey to Intimacy” Instructor.

I believe that Enneagram is a powerful tool for self-discovery and human transformation. I have been using Enneagram since 2007 for individuals and couples in my counselling practice to deepen clients’ self-awareness and understanding of each other. With an appreciation of each other’s worldview, couples become more compassionate and receptive to their differences. And when they are more open-minded, they are able to acknowledge and take responsibility for their own contributions and do not take their partner’s reactivity personally. Through this process, couples learn to recognize that their fixed reaction pattern is their enemy not their partner. They can then see each other from a new perspective, and fight their cycle together as a team, and enjoy and appreciate each other better as a unique person and no longer stuck in the same old pattern.  

People are curious about my varied academic and career background. Even though I have a strong interest in psychology in my youth, I never dreamed of becoming a relationship counsellor one day.

My life changed completely when I was hit very badly by my marriage crisis in 2004. I changed from a very naïve and trusting person to a very confused and insecure person. The illusion of love and security that I lived in suddenly collapsed and I found myself deeply hurt and lost. The marriage and career that I worked so hard for 20 years suddenly didn’t make any sense to me. I decided to quit my IT job and search for my lost self and new meaning in life. That’s how I started my learning journey of the Enneagram and studying journey to become a counsellor to heal myself and others. By immersing myself completely with all the studies, and taking time to heal my wounded soul for 5 years. In 2009, I finally have the courage to leave my empty marriage and ready to start a new chapter in my life. 

On the hindsight, the crisis is a needed push for my growth. And I am very grateful for this painful journey to help me become the person I am today. But it was not an easy journey; it was full of tears and struggles. The crisis and traumatic experience have made me a stronger person and a better counsellor in empathizing with clients’ dilemma, struggles and pains, and helping them through their journey because I am just a fellow traveller like them.

Couples counselling is probably one of the most difficult type of counselling to practice. And to make it even more challenging, many couples come to see me way too late. I have seen so many desperate and despair couples with their ingrained patterns, loneliness, coldness, contempt, abuse and deadness in their relationship. Each couple brings me a new challenge and teaches me something along the way. I struggle with them and continually study as much as I could in my practice to equip myself with the challenges they bring to me.

It is really a privilege being a counsellor to witness so many couples changing from a very stuck position to a more understanding and loving position with each other. I really enjoy this process of meeting and helping couples, each couple deepens my understanding of human’s struggles and pains, what motivates them to change and their potentials for joy and happiness.

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