How Infidelity Causes Post Traumatic Stress Disorder by Dr Randi Gunther
When a trusted partner in a committed relationship betrays the sacred trust of the other, the relationship will undergo severe instability. The partner who has been betrayed is emotionally tortured and humiliated when knowledge of the infidelity emerges. They are clearly in trauma and experience the same array of symptoms that professionals now describe as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Similar to any others who have suffered threats to their physical or emotional well-being and security, they are disoriented and confused by what has happened.
Spouse Had an Affair? Beware How You Handle Your Anger by Dr Leon F. Seltzer
How you handle your anger will not only determine your own well-being, but also the well-being of your relationship. If you’re unable to own and express your upsetting emotions, it’s far less likely that your partner will offer you the soothing you’re unable to provide for yourself, which is essential to your healing.
If the two of you actively defend against these negative feelings through cyclical blaming game, the damage to your relationship can be irreversible and lead to longstanding bitterness—if not outright divorce.
How to Survive Infidelity by Dr Willard F. Harley
A collection of articles written by Dr Harley on infidelity. It is compiled through a series of Q&A on topics related to infidelity such as how to cope with infidelity, rules for recovery after affair, how to avoid affair, what to do with cheated partner, lover’s perspective on infidelity, forgiveness, etc.
Infidelity & Forgiveness by Barton Goldsmith
Forgiveness is not about letting the betrayer off the hook; it is about letting the betrayed off the hook. Through forgiveness our hearts no longer have to endure the torture that comes from holding on to the violation. Forgiveness, if it has been properly earned, can be a healthy response to infidelity. It can also be seen as a reward to the injured party for having lived through a transgression of their trust.
Transitioning Through Divorce: Five Steps to a ‘Good’ Divorce, by Mary K. Lawler
Divorce can bring major life changes that cause stress, crisis, and anxiety. You may find that your usual coping methods are no longer helpful. By understanding the stress associated with each stage of divorce, you can be better prepared to deal with the stress,
adapt to changes, and move on to the next step. There is a five-step progression that most individuals experience through the divorce process. One step usually
overlaps the next, involving a change in social roles and tasks. Each step seems to begin with heightened stress. This stress usually decreases toward the end of a step as you prepare to move on to the next step.