Patterns of Relating
In Patterns of Relating, acclaimed author Helen Palmer leads you through an exploration of your own Enneagram type and the various patterns and tendencies that come with it—deeply engrained patterns that you may or may not actually be aware of at any given moment. Through these powerful teachings and discussions you will be able to identify your own particular pattern, and more importantly, learn how your pattern interfaces and interacts with others, helping you to better navigate the many obstacles and opportunities for growth that inevitably emerge in all of your relationships.
Relationships Matter
by Helen Palmer
Love and Relationships
The 45 Combinations of Relationships
The 45 possible combinations of Enneagram types in relationship with each other. These combinations allow us to see deeply within our own character structure and assist us in developing healthy relationships with our partner. These combinations can help us gain insight and a deeper sense of ourselves and others, which leads to compassion. By getting grounded, receptive, and non-judging, we enhance our ability to see through others’ eyes and experience others’ emotional life and world view.
Enneagram Instinctual Subtypes
In Enneagram terms, the word “subtype” describes how the three basic instincts are expressed in everyday life, influenced by an Enneagram type’s driving emotional energy or passion. This explains much of the variation among people of the same type, as all of the nine Enneagram types have three instinctual variations, totaling 27 subtypes – each with a distinct flavor.
Without understanding and conscious communication, even small differences in subtype emphasis can erode a relationship over time. So by becoming more awake to your own subtype – and the subtypes of those close to you – you can help prevent misunderstandings and conflict with others whose preoccupations differ from yours.
Enneagram type-based Obstacles to Relationships
This mini-book covers each type, focusing on one essential way, each type gets in their way of having real relationship with others. Development ideas for enhancing relationships are also included.
The Value of Values
This mini-book covers the value each Enneagram type values. Values are the guiding principles by which we live that help us align our actions with our principles. But rigid adherence to our values can create a counter-effect of personal and interpersonal difficulties.